Thought for the Day …
Something I thought about today: If you know some people who have yet to go through life as much as yourself, and obviously still quite simple-minded, would you expect them to think or handle things in life like you, or would you see things in their perspective and understand that they do not mean to do certain things which would deem to be unacceptable in your view?
For me, I would choose the latter, because I feel that it is not fair to judge in your light the things they do at their level of thinking. I guess I wouldn’t immediately judge them for things which I feel is wrong, because they may not see things as broadly or in-depth as I do, due to our different levels of maturity. Otherwise, these people would be condemned without even knowing that they are condemned. That is a little unfair to them.
Some things have to be learnt through life experience, and if I blamed them, it would be like expecting them to know things which they have not realized. What we can do at most is to tell them our views and get them to think about how they would handle the situation if they were given another chance. But then again, does something bad have to happen in order to make them realize their ‘mistakes’? Afterall, lessons learnt through experience are better understood. Would telling them be sufficient to make them understand?
Sigh, my thoughts are becoming a cycle. Think about it another day, haha (please don’t ‘box’ me). Going to copy notes again … sigh …
November 9th, 2006 at 12:56 am
In my point of view, it’s sad to say yes. In order to learnt & grow, we have to experience it, be it good or bad. Just like if you wanna learn to pick yourself after a fall, you have to fall first.
Your entry prompt me into thinking, what if, thru the experiences not just once or twice but rather a few times, the person still won’t learn, and even by the verbal advices from others. How would you handle that person whom you deem is less street smart or simple-minded or even, simply won’t learnt from mistakes?
It just so happen that recently i have this ’sister’ whom simply have gotten me to give up on her. She’s destroying herself thru booze and no matter how much care n concern the ppl ard her are giving her, talking sense to her, guiding her and helping her, she still won’t wake up. Doesn’t reciprocate at all the care for her. Doesn’t even try to think of the consequences of the things she did. Always brushing off serious matter by saying ‘i don’t know’.
Erm.. guess i’m suffocating you here. Oops…
November 20th, 2006 at 8:53 am
the thing is “dun judge in the first place”
dun understand msn me :p
November 23rd, 2006 at 1:46 am
Hiya.. u busy with studies i’m busy with work.. haha.. alittle hard to catch ya on msn…;)