Appreciation
Friday, March 17th, 2006Sigh. What a way to end my day. As usual, I have nothing good to say in my blog, haha.
Well, it may seem like a trivial matter, but when something irritating repeats itself for years, it becomes a big matter. For one thing, I really like it when people are thoughtful towards me, especially my boyfriend. But after so many years, I guess this is only something to hope for, and not something to expect. Either you get it or you don’t, because it is in one’s character. I believe my situation is a very familiar scenario to many girls out there. I was once caught in a situation whereby I had to make a very very little sacrifice in order to give the best of the situation for my boyfriend’s friends. I readily agreed when he decided that he and I should make the sacrifice, but later on I felt quite unhappy because he had made the decision without asking for my opinion.
It’s not the sacrifice that matters, but the thought that counts. If someone asks for my opinion, or discuss it with me in such scenarios, I would feel very happy because I can see that he respects me and does not take me for granted. But some people just think one-way - they feel that they have done the right thing for their friends, and their girlfriends are just making a fuss over something which is not wrong at all. I agree that there is nothing wrong in treating friends well, and I would have done the same thing for my friends.
I just wish to tell people out there, whether you’re a guy or girl - always think about why your other half expresses unhappiness over certain issues. If you know her well and she is not an unreasonable person, don’t respond by telling her that she has spoilt your day by finding fault with you. That should not be what she gets in return for the things she has done for you, and for being patient with you. Treat your friends well, but hmm … don’t take your girlfriend or boyfriend for granted.
